I heard John Maxwell give a leadership talk– which I always find fascinating.  He mentioned that leaders carry around two buckets in ther hands. One has gasoline and the other has water.  When they approach a spark of contention (a situation that needs to be dealt with), they either take that bucket of gasoline  and when they are done with that spark, you’ve got a major fire on your hand.  Or they take the bucket of water, drown out that little spark of contention and the issue goes away. 

Which are you? (I think I’ve done both in my life)